Just found out she already filed

[alice444]

Why did you start a new thread? Just b/c you feel like it's a new phase now?

I feel so blindsided and betrayed. It's hard to believe I trusted her so much. She wrote this to me a couple of days ago: "Thanks and have a great weekend with DD!"
How can she be so two faced, by then she'd already started the process (apparently a couple of weeks ago). I guess I should've known, she acts nice and then does the most damaging things. She never discusses or talks about anything. Only confides in her friends never me.

You did say just a few days ago- I believe in response to my sitch- that W always acts nicest before dropping more bombs. I know it hurts to know they've been planning something like this for awhile- I know. Why we're expecting them to change course, is what I don't know. She is probably telling herself that she has nothing to be ashamed of b/c she's acting cordial to you, etc. on the outside. This also helps her feel better about what she's doing to the family. I think that you need to re-group with your L to get a read on your current situation. Read what I wrote to H4L- don't let every move she makes shake you up, if you can help it. You need to at some point talk with W and/or a C about how this is affecting D. This is serious and if you guys haven't been educating yourselves, talking or talking with someone professional, I think you really should try to do that. You have to come together on that at least- it's too important to not take action on and figure out how to parent her through this. Take care of yourself, too-- how are those pushups going?