I feel so bad for you and your kids. My sitch is not that bad with the kids, but my wife does seem to favor our S over our D. It is just so hurtful for them. It is too bad that your H is using that type of language because he is frustrated with himself.
My wife always says I am "fragile," but my W and your H are the "fragile" ones because they had to resort to cheating instead of working to improve their marriage and protect their family from outside threats which what I see the OM or OW to be. I wonder if they will ever get it? Probably not.
It is good that you stepped in to end an awful situation for your family.
I feel awful for you. You will find your future happiness with your positive attitude and doing what is best for you and your kids. My W and your H do not come first anymore in this situation unless they put a stop to their infidelity. It is sad, but it does not seem to be the case in either of our sitches.
Take care of yourself!!!
ME-41 W-33 M-8 D-8 S-4 D 5/17/2010 www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1961097#Post1961097