Originally Posted By: Katie
Another thing, why do guys think that the other person is so great when they have no history with them. I mean they don't have kids, financial, house, cars, in-laws with them to argue about or make you want to seperate. What makes them think that it won't get that way with them in the future if they can't even try to solve the problems they are currently having?
Of course the other person will be great because they have no attachments to them like we do. It is like when my H and I first met we got along so well because we didn't have any of the things we have now.


That's not limited to men, I hate to say. WAS's in general think that their relationship (and by extension, the LBS) is the root of all of their problems. The OP is new and different and exciting -- as you said, just as we were in the beginning.

This is why one of the things we suggest is to GAL and work on 180s; to become an interesting person again.

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."