W still wants separation, need to DB more

[OfficerInNeed]

Here are some goals I had come up with a little over a week ago. These are things that I thought "When my W starts coming around what would she say or do." These might not be attainable goals or realistic or even goals at all but that is why I am posting them, to get feedback and make them more realistic so I can validate and monitor what works and does not and keep my sanity.



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My W would/will:
- wear her wedding ring, at least wear it more often if not all the time
- communicate with me more freely and often
- take interest in seeing a Therapist and get help
- be open to some form of marital counseling
- include me or at least consider me in when making plans to do something or go somewhere
- say "Hi" and "Bye" when coming/going to work or other places.
- call me on the phone (no matter where or when) to talk, just because.
- start sleeping in same bed as I.
- overcome her "shyness" around me
- ask how I feel or "how was work?"
- start to show more interest in the upkeep of our home
- initiate positive relationship talk
- would decide to stay and give US another chance
- initiate a hug as she use to when this sitch first started
- make us dinner/lunch/breakfast or something that would suggest courtesy/thoughtfulness
- FIL would be more supportive of our marriage
- stop pursuing OM
- stop exposing our personal life/problems to co-workers
- have a more positive outlook on marriage
- join me at church
- say more kind, encouraging things toward me, about me.
- speak more lovingly as she did when the sitch first began (for example: referring to me as "hun" or "babe" which are words that meant so much to her before our sitch)
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I do have self improving goals and the list is much shorter and I have already initiated most on my list.

If you been following my sitch or have a similar sitch and st similar goals please share what did/did not work.