My H said that he has had chest pain, insomnia, woke up in sweats, was dazed and confused, locked his keys in the car (several times) and drove the wrong way constantly. He works in the emergency room. He was scared to death he was going to kill someone. He was 39.
If your H is a pilot, behaviour like this may kill him. And he knows it.
Someday, way in the future, you may be lucky enough to hear for yourself and you will KNOW--Your H was NOT WELL during this time! It is as scary for them as it is for you. They just handle it differently.
Detach, detach, no expectations, detach, and give him some space to get better! And YOU get better!! Start the UPWARD spiral--he can not do it--he has no DB board to go to, no internet friends to cheer him on in the right direction--how do you expect him to do this if YOU don't start??
