Early Parole from the MLC Chain Gang?????

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I am starting a new thread based on the fact that there have been many positive steps in recent weeks but yesterday marked a significant change in my W and how she is acting towards me. We still do not have our Legal Separation Documents signed but I do not care at this point, I can honestly say I am happy with the direction things are moving in.

Below are the links to my Threads. The beginning of the “Doing Hard Time on the MLC Chain Gang” has a brief synopsis of my situation for those who are not familiar.


WAW in #2A
WAW on Suicide Watch
Mixed Signals
Wise DB Help Needed
Doing hard time on the MLC chain gang

A week ago on April 2, 2010 my W and I went on a date and had a great time which I talked about at the end of the last thread. We also ended up sitting together at Easter Sunday Service, we met later that day to discuss the legal separation. Last Monday she came over to the house to pick up our S9 to take him out to eat and spend the night, she ended up staying at the house for 3 hours and I threw together a quick dinner for her and I and our S9. Our D13 sat in her room, she still will not talk to my W, but her therapy is going great.

Yesterday, I texted my W before church and asked if she wanted to meet for lunch to which she replied “I would like that”. So we went to lunch and I was expecting a light lunch then head home to get some things done. When the waitress came to take the drink order my W ordered a bloody mary…..hmmm I wasn’t expecting that, so I joined her in the bloody mary drink choice. We sat on the patio of the restaurant in the sun on a beautiful day with out a care in the world and had lunch and a couple of rounds of drinks. It was fun and light hearted we joked and laughed and smiled at each other. I thought lunch was over and when the waitress came back to see if we wanted anything else, my W was ready to order a corona and spend the afternoon with me. I told my W that I had a whole fridge full of corona back at the house and we could sit in the sun and that I needed to plant some flowers I bought the day before. My W promptly responded that she would come over and help. I almost fell out of my chair. Needless to say, we got the check and left.

My W did come over and we planted a few flowers but the corona’s got the best of us and we ended up sitting in the sun and listened to Jimmy Buffet and Bob Marley. It was nice. Our best friends who live right behind us ended up joining us when they heard the music and the 4 of us had a great afternoon sitting in the backyard in the sun and wasting away the afternoon. It was just like nothing ever happened it was like old times, fun times, the times before the nightmare. It was agreed that we would all cookout this Saturday night.

I am walking on air for sure but trying to keep my expectations at zero, I am expecting some sort of blowback but for now nothing has happened. She has not said that she wants to work on the M but her actions are speaking loud and clear. Until she says something I am keeping it light, fun and friendly…..absolutely no Relationship talk.

I can say this, I have tried very hard to be as friendly to her as I can be over the last couple of months. No pressure, just time and space. More time will tell and I will keep everyone updated as best I can. It is true though what is said in DR and on the boards that when things are going good people tend to not have time for the boards because they are busy working on the Relationship.

I do not claim to be a success story yet but it sure does feel like it is headed in the right direction. I will try to post as often as I can, I can remember always searching the boards for success stories, keeping my hope alive. I would find one and read it over and over again to see if there was something in that thread that I thought would apply to my sitch. I will say the one thing that is present in all successful threads is “TIME” . This stuff takes time, more than you think it will take. You have to make “time” your friend, not your enemy.