If that's true, then she probably would. But she'd quickly SEE that you're different -- and serious -- this time, as you began to "live out each day" those words.
If it was me at this stage, I may laugh off some of her current antics. See if you can get her to go out to a date with you.
If your wife was sending naked pictures of herself to other men and telling you she wants to meet up with them, you would laugh it off and ask her out on a date?
That is terrible advice.
If you allow your wife to openly conduct an affair in your face and you complacently sit back and allow it to happen, you set a precedence in your marriage that you are OK with sharing her with other men. (You would be OK sharing your wife with other men?). Even if you were to rekindle your relationship, she would always remember you had no problem with that. What happens when the next guy comes along? Do you think she would view you as a strong, self-respecting man to journey through life with or as some guy who waits while she fulfills her fantasys of multiple sex partners?
Well, that has been what I have been trying to accomplish over the last few days, and I do know that it takes longer than a few days to see change. But, one of the things we talked about was how I was really a poor husband. How I was lazy in terms of handling the "man" things in a marriage, or just not following through on something. So, I told her that this was a real change, not something temporary that I thought I should do to try and win her back and it's how things are going to be from now on. And that sometimes it really takes a nightmare like this to happen to make you wake up and realize how much you need to grow up. So, I've taken on a much larger role in getting things done. Because I know that she wants and deserves a man as her husband, not someone still slacking off like they're 20 and just floating through everything.
I do agree with that statement a lot. I know that so much of this comes down to a lack of respect from her towards me. There's no other justification, besides her having some serious mental problems, for her to be so brazen and unconcerned with doing what she's doing across the hall from me. But it's like we're at a serious deadlock that I don't know how to break. I DON'T under any circumstance think what she's doing is in the slightest way ok and despite my insistence that she stop and things have to change, it's come to a point where she feels that she has such an upper hand, that she can just say ok, i'll stop; then go right back to it 10 minutes later.
Yeah, there are topless pics that she has sent out, only topless as that's the only part of her body that she's proud to flaunt, and plenty of crotch pics and webcam shows for her from him.
Ok. I think part of the reason why I've been. . .well, scared to, is because I'm pretty sure it will just make her go to her mom's house where she can be online there and not have to worry about anything. She has no shame in doing the same things at her house.
So? I cut my wife's cellphone off, and within 3 hours, she had her own. That's not the point. You do it to draw a line of personal integrity, and stand up for yourself and for your marriage.
You are ENABLING her adulterous behavior. Your self-esteem, over time, is going to erode further and further, and she's going to lose whatever remaining RESPECT she has for you. And since women tie their feelings of LOVE very closely with their feelings of RESPECT . . . .
Ok. I think part of the reason why I've been. . .well, scared to, is because I'm pretty sure it will just make her go to her mom's house where she can be online there and not have to worry about anything. She has no shame in doing the same things at her house.
