New to this Community seeking advice

[MichelleLT]

LOL I didn't think you spent much on them, but I was just checking.

Hmmmmm.

So, me thinks it's she's playing the victim for her own choices. She is hating that you are not around to help with the kids, that she is doing it all - school, activities, doctor, dentist. She is hating that the kids come home from time with you talking about all the cool things they did while she has to be the daily disciplinarian.

But it was her choice to take them full time. It was her choice to move away so you couldn't be there to help on a daily or weekly basis.

But, she felt she had to. She is playing the martyr.

Sound about right?

You're right. You can't do things because of what you are afraid her reaction is. You addressed her concern by switching the area codes.

Try and let the rest roll off your back. Don't get caught up in the drama. She has to work through her emotions on her own.

Keep living for you and the boys. Keep being consistent. And most of all, keep having fun!