reconciliation after divorce?

[any chance?]

Thank you Sandi2 and Awoken for your thoughts. Tis definately a very difficult day.

W and I agree on the things that went wrong. Emotional neglect on my part, her burying issues on her part (WAW). Unfotunate loss of trust issues at the end did not help, and she is currently very upset about the breakup and angry with me, but perhaps time will help with that. I am going to be there when she needs me, but will not pursue...work on GAL and making a better me. The start of the D timeclock does mean the nightmare of the last 9 months is over, and I need to focus on what is right for me, and must not attempt to 'win' her back, as that is sure to backfire. I realize that reconciliation at this point is highly, highly unlikely, and that I should not even hope for it. It will be tough to see her in so much pain over the next number of months.

Yes, the OM is a big issue. He has worked to keep his claws into her over the past number of months, and she is seemingly oblivious to his intent, but perhaps I am fooling myself. I have believed her when she says no contact, but I know he is just waiting for her to decide on D. He is going to D his W as soon as he knows. Nice guy. If my W starts a relationship with him, she is in for a very rocky future. Totally out of my control, so I cannot worry about it. Too bad we all work together in a relatively small place.

No fun on this end. I could use any support and advice you wise folks have to offer. I need some strength, to be sure.