For example, I've been in a terribly abusive situation. End the end treated worse than people treated their dogs. there was a period of itme where I was catching all hell, in all her actions, tone of voice, etc. Argued down, just to be argued at.
I did react alot, I did guess and say things like "are you cheating on me, etc?".
Well a couple of years later ( today ), she's flipping it around saying she was nice to me during this period and I was abusive to her.
Another example:
I could not lay in the bed with her, because she was hating my living guts. She cheated on me, and did not want to own her own [censored] in order to maintain her esteem. So she becomes increasingly "bad"...
So I would lay in the bed with her, and the tension was enough to make my chest hurt. If I did fall asleep I woke up feeling dumber...
I started to sleep on the couch in another room to protect myself.
Today, years later she says I didn't want to sleep with her, and would sleep on the couch. Even though I explained myself.
This is how they are, they will flip anything and use it against you.
I'd log it if you have time, it would be useful for me today if I had video, audio and logs of what was going on, so even she could understand that I have proof that she was instigating nearly all the things she complains about.
Take care of it how you want, and make sure you take care of yourself. Being cheated on will tear alot of self esteem out of you.
