(It's Juno, don't know why they changed my screen name...)
I agree with the stuff the wiser people said here. He has so many hooks in you and as such, you're left to dangle at the end of his reel and flop around when he jerks on the rod- lame metaphor, but that's kind of what it feels like. Can you lower your expectations to zero of him and see if that at least calms things down a bit emotions-wise for you? It's nt fair, you shouldn't have to do it, but as someone else pointed out- it helps you- you'll only have 2 results- to not be surprised if he doesn't rise to the occasion (and have no emotion about it) or to be pleasantly surprised if he does. Easier said than done, but I think you need to strive for it for yourself.
hang in there-
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
