Please post if your DB'ing worked...

[dday101798]

Hoping,

As said, if your join date is any indicator of your 'DB'ing', buddy, you're only getting started, and it's gonna get worse before it gets better.

Already, cardinal rule #1 doesn't seem to be sinking in for you: "DB'ing" is for YOU. Yes, getting your spouse back is the ultimate goal, but your spouse doesn't want to come back to the same you they left in the first place.

No, you don't have to "everything by the book". And no, you don't have to transform yourself into some complete alter ego of yourself either.

I lost everything. I lost my marriage. I lost my kids. I lost my home and almost everything I amassed in 10 years of my life. We had a hilacious, nasty divorce.

But, I realized, I lost my voice, I lost my identity. I realized I became, well, a wuss. And wussies aren't very attractive now are they? I became a simple 'yes dear' to not rock the boat and let her walk all over for me for 2 years while she deteriorated in her own way.

And then, she left.

And now, she's back. Why? I'm not that wuss anymore. I'm who I was when we met. Full of fire and life. Determined. And yet, yes, at the same time, I need her and she needs me, but not to take the other for granted and always be respectful of each other. We now both know the level of hurt and destruction we can cause each other, and never want to live it again.