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[ClingingToHope]

I have changed in every way he asked because they were negative qualities not for him, but he still won't come home.

Good for you. The changes hopefully will help on the next person. I think a lot of what he said about you was just an excuse anyway to cover up his own behavior.

You friends with kids are a perfect baby sitting opportunity if you can build a new group of friends. As a teacher, there should be some younger unattached teachers to do something with.

You just have to force yourself to ask what others are doing. My biggest thing was I didn't want to be some creepy older guy hanging out by myself. At first I started hanging out with the younger crowd at work. That was a little weird since many of them have steady girlfriends and here I am, newly single. But to me it was just getting a chance to get out.

Since, I've found a former co-worker who likes to go out -- almost too much -- I've done a couple things with a commercial Realtor I know and another one of my long-time friends is going through a divorce and trying to set up his weekends to coincide with mine.

It still sucks because at this point in life I'd rather be focusing on paying off the house and saving for D11's and D7's college than what am I going to do in two weekends.

One thing is I still keep singing this tune to myself -- Something good is gonna happen to me.
Something great is gonna happen to me.
And I won't cry anymore.

The last line is a little sappy. I haven't cried in a while. I just get anxiety attacks now and sad reminisces.