I have A question, I asked one fellow d/b on f/b but I have gotten no reply so I am asking here.... Can someone give me the interpretation of HITTING ROCK BOTTOM What exactly does it mean
IRMA, Hitting rock bottom is when someone has lost everything and everybody. Does it mean that people see the error of their ways when they do that? Sometimes they do, often times they do in. IMO, Human pride will outweigh all that is lost, for the admittance of wrong doing is almost impossible for many people to do, no matter what the cost. I know many on here might disagree with me, but I have seen it too much in life for me to change my opinion on that.
"Hitting bottom" is personal. For me, hitting bottom was having my wife come to me and tell me she was done with our marriage. For the third time.
For an alcoholic, hitting bottom may be having a spouse leave them for drinking too much. Or it could be being arrested for DUI. It could be a life-threatening car crash. Or maybe they never truly hit bottom; they just keep making excuses. The important thing is, you have hit bottom when you realize that your life is unmanageable and you need to take steps to address your issues.
Most all of us LBS's are here because we have hit that stage. Some of our WAS's may have hit that stage when they chose to leave; some of them may be leaving because they haven't hit that stage yet.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I have been here for years......I have prayed for peace,comfort,knowledge,to do his will, for HIS will to be done in my life, for my husband to COME TO HIS SENSES,a restored marriage,for forgiveness of sins in my life and in his,I pray for all of you in here everyday to have peace in your lives and to have your desires of your heart come to pass. And this is something I do every single day......and sometimes I get really discouraged when I read all the pain in here and all the new people who somehow find their ways in here but one thing I do know GOD HAS BEEN THE ONE TO CARRY ME EVERY SINGLE DAY
IRMA, I am glad you have great faith, it has helped you and will continue to help you. I think you need to understand that everyone has free will to choose and decide, God made us this way. To not have individual choice is not God's will. With that being said, your H has to make his own choices, and it seems as though he has. I understand that you will and are standing, that's your choice. With that being said, I do encourage you to keep moving forward with your life, and do so without him or thoughts of him. If he comes back, great, but if not, you are prepared.
For the most part I have days when I hardly think about all this mess, but then sometimes when money is short, or we have a birthday or a special occasion, it makes me sad because he is missing out on beautiful memories with those he used to love and those who loved and still love him. Our twins granddaughters always talk about grandpa....remember things they did together, and funny stuff that happened to him, and I beleive God does give us free will and he doesnt interfere with that..... If we didnt have free will he would always make our choices for us and then why would we need him????? Glad to hear from you B/H hope you are doing well.....we are having beautiful weather down here in the Dallas area spring is here.everything is budding everywhere all things are becoming brand new again......
