You are entitled to happiness most of the time in your marriage. You sound good. Keep in mind the ways of the WAS is in the world, and it will take advantage of your viewpoint every time. As a matter of fact, you can remain in your holy viewpoint and she will understand this, and keep on the path that she's on. Only near disaster will bring her back.
Some of the things we speak on DB are not by the bible, but they are effective in these situations. Plus it allows you to retain and build self-esteem in the fact of imminent doom.
Ideally yes, marriages should be happy most of the time. When they are not and it is because of things within the control of both parties, we are responsible for working to make the necessary changes to fix them.
If my W had cancer or for some reason could not be intimate, I would obviously be unhappy and needs would not be met. But that doesn't mean I quit and move on to someone who can make me happy.
My W has depression and has made some horrible choices. I have to determine if/when it is hopeless. Sometimes it feels that way, sometimes not. If people and my pastor start telling me I'm a Pollyanna, it will be a good sign that I'm being unrealistic. If I feel no desire to reconcile with my W, then it will be time to end it if my W has not already.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
