As a LBS you do need to be the one to contact your H. That's what we long for, and need. If you go dark then he will have NO idea that you would like to work things out. We have no clue to what is going on inside your heads.
He might pull away at first, that is what DBusting is telling us to do, go dark....don't accept all invites etc. But that is for us LBSs.
