Sandi - thank you for your time and energy you give everyone. I really appreciated your words to me that I read this morning. Thanks for remembering me and my sitch. GW
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
Quick question and an update. Should I continue to post here or on my original thread?
Update - W sisters weekend went well except the flowers never were delivered. She really likes the new treadmill. Still thinking about more baby step romantic things that I can try.
One issue that has come up. Last fall, I began seperating our accounts. Still keeping the joint credit card accounts that I pay each month. But I now have seperate bank and savings accounts. I did not close our joint bank accounts - just stopped putting any money into them. I also stopped checking them on a regular basis - I considered that her money. This week I got a notice from the bank - the joint accounts went to 0. She's actually overdrawn on the checking account.
I haven't said a word. I'm not sure what to do at this point. One side says let her ask about the accounts, then I can tell her that I am just moving in the direction she told me to go last fall - that since she told me that we shouldn't be married, I'm protecting myself. On the other side - will I jeapordize the progress I have made? Should I transfer some money over to cover the overdrafts?
Reading about the "fog" and that she may not even remember what she said to me last year. Is this a step to break through all of that?
Sandi - W receptive to having hormone levels being looked into. Take a look at my latest update when you get a chance
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
I suppose it may vary a bit from woman to woman, stitch to stitch. I have read some very positive things about their program. If she was "willing" to attend, then they may be able to reach her. Don't know how long it would last with her....depending on how far she's gone, I suppose. Don't know if she would hang with the follow-up sessions. From what I've read,it is after the couple goes back home that is the test.
Have you mentioned this to your W?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
