reconciliation after divorce?

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Hi Anychance; sorry for the difficult day I know you are having.
I only got a few minutes, but I wanted to post something for you.
I'm gonna type fast, and not self-edit too much. Sorry if this is blunt.

So she officially asked for the divorce? Has she already filed?
Even so, there is a lot of time left to pass. My wife filed the first week of January, and our divorce is still pending.

Seems as if she has spent the last week trying to justify her decision to go for the D.

Yes, she will say anything to justify it. You will never know the truth about it. Don't listen to her, focus on yourself now.

Told her I wanted to remain friends, and that this is very sad.

you sound just like me. These are the wrong things to say. Either one is pursuing her, and does not help you regain her respect. Besides, do you want to be friends with someone that treats you this way?

I believe you said before that she had a "brief" ea or pa. I bet it's still ongoing, and she has become better at hiding it.

You are new here, and you've already gotten some good advice. You need to read a lot of threads here to help you understand what advice you are being given. I can't think straight under emotional turmoil, and I bet you have the same problem. You will rely on your habitual ways of doing things, and you already know they don't work.

You need to CHEERFULLY accept that your old marriage is already dead, and move on with your new life. The OM can have her. I'm not saying to give up on your M. However, start working on yourself now, and not to save your M. Divorce doesn't happen overnight, but you've got to work on yourself now.

Again, sorry for the rushed words. We all here understand the fear, pain, and panic you must be experiencing. Hang in there.