I know Puppy sees himself as a counter example and he thinks that blowing up his Ws life, humiliating her with her family, and so on, was essential to repairing his M. Maybe it was for him. He's also got a lot personally invested in the idea that it was necessary and useful.
Wow.
You give me FAR too much credit, OT. The things I advocate are not "Puppy's" -- they are based on the best infidelity research out there, from the likes of Harley, Glass, Tuppy, McGraw and others. To this I add my own personal experience but more importantly my observation of the hundreds of affairs that I've studied on this and other forums over the past few years.
I advocate well-thought-out EXPOSURE, not "humiliation" and "blowing up (your spouse's) life" nor "moralizing." Please either provide a direct quote where I've recommended that, or simply apologize, as it would be much quicker.
