Can you please explain to me in detail what replay is?
On page 2 of your thread I gave you links to the resources. Look up in the main resources the stages of MLC. There is a detailed explanation of "replay" by Heart Blessing. She explains it much better than I can. If after you have read it you have questions, I will try to help.
Well, OP doesn't look good for me then if he is still in "replay". I copied and pasted where you told me to read again. Here it is:
As long as the Mid Lifer continues "replay" behaviors they are nowhere near to being ready to start their way out of the tunnel; the "awakening" they have IF they come to it, is a "turning point" to beginning their journey out of the tunnel.
When the "awakening" occurs, they begin to suffer the next stage-Depression, and it is a low point of the Mid Lifer's journey.
The Replay stage is the LONGEST of the stages, and can last up to two years or even longer, depending upon the "replay" behaviors used during this time.
This is all true, however you must understand that most people on this board, come here while there spouses are in "replay" so that is common. There is no way to tell how long it is going to last or if they will continue the same behavior over and over. The turn can be sudden and usually when least expected. You must take the focus off of your husband and work on yourself.
Read the link on the LBS. Start to work on you. GAL.
GF My H is still going trough replay. He`s been in it for 5 years. He seems so much better, than back to replay. He seems normal at times, then back to replay. His alien still comes out when things don`t go his MLC way. Then I know he`s looking to satisfy his ego. Replay again.
He`ll tell other people he thinks he`s depressed,(not me) because of being stuck in our M. After all this time, he still thinks the same as he did when his MLC began.
OP, I thought I was doing better and now I'm back to thinking about H again. I have been working on myself lately though. I just get mixed signals sometimes. Someone on this board said it would never happen suddenly and now you are saying it can.
The turn can be sudden and usually when least expected.
I didn't say they would recover suddenly. Just the change. The rest of the sentence says when you least expect it. If you are expecting it believe me it WON'T happen. Its kind of like a watched pot never boils.
Originally Posted By: Goodfight
I thought I was doing better and now I'm back to thinking about H again.
This is something you have to work on it doesn't change right away and we all have good days and bad days.
