If you have changed to the degree you say you have and he still doesn't see it and doesn't want to change, then he's either involved with someone else or possibly in the throes of midlife crisis. (Or possibly both.)
He swears he only talks to his co-worker about work (they only text outside of work and don't talk on the phone or see each other) and anything he has shown me really aligns with that. I do think he's into her though (even if it's just on a friend level) and it eats me up inside. She's a distraction at the very least. Ultimately, I can't harp on it too much because it makes me go nuts and that's not helping the situation.
Also, I am hoping he's not having an MLC (our MC doesn't think so) b/c I don't think I could wait it out. I love him the way he used to be but I'm not sure it's worth it for me to spend so much more of life in limbo and who knows if he would come back.
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I would come back to this: stop worrying about him for a while. You still live together, and he knows where to find you if he wants to talk.
Yes, i really need to focus on this...
the thing that throws me off though is that for the most part, he is nice to me. and there are times where he is tender and kind and i feel some connection (no matter how small). so then it makes me feel like...there is some hope.
Me 30, H34, M7years Bomb dropped 5/09, S8/09, Living together 2/10 (due to external forces)
