Your wife needs to be TOLD that this is NOT about HER. Your wife is making YOUR hurt abotu HER instead... and its' NOT.
When people go into the hospital and are injured, teh nurse doens't roll their eyes and complain that you are making HER life more difficult does she?
If your wife wasn't a virgin, then look at your marriage this way :
1. Your wife was sexually acitve other men 2. Your wife was sexually active with you 3. Your wife was sexually acitve with other men 4. Your wife was sexually active with you
Are you seriously dealign with anything NEW here? I mean, your wife was busy before you met, so how is this different other than you KNEW the guy?
I know its hard, but under these circumstances you were enjoing a marriage under the delusion that your wife wasn't active before your marriage. She WAS... this isnt' much different than that...
Your wife needs to learn to love UNCONDITIONALLY. This means supporting you and NOT worrying about how hurt this makes HER feel... SHE has to do some divorce busting right now... and NOT complain about it...
She has to do teh db-ing.. tha'ts it in a nutshell. Only SHE is whining about it.
