CW - that's a though situation with the taxes owing on the property and the looming foreclosure. Even if you pay your half and he doesn't pay his, you may loose the property. Unless you are just thinking to let him sweat a bit and then you pay for it if he can't come up with the money.
I wonder if your lawyer can advise you on how to protect that money if you have to pay for his half. I'm not sure if you can put a lien on the property against him. That means that if the property is sold in the future you would recover it. Not sure if that's possible if you own the property jointly. Ask your lawyer.
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Thanks Mila-that is good info I appreciate the input. I haven't gotten that far in my thinking! That is a good question to ask my L. I don't want this house to be foreclosed on because it is paid for and I will want either H to buy my half of it or we sell it. I don't want to deal with renters anymore and since I cannot trust him, I don't want to remain in business with him on it! And, since the current house I am in is upside down, we won't get anything if we have to sell it!!!!
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Well, guys, I think it is time to give up and let go! My L called me today, she and H's L talked and offered for H to do a legal seperation (I did not know they were doing this) instead of a D so that I would have health ins. and he said no, he'd rather pay more in support. Obviously he has moved on and so should I. My L thinks he must be getting pressure from OW due to her religion but it doesn't really matter does it? I feel like a fool for hoping and believing that he'd come back!
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(((CW))) That is hard news to absorb. You're not a fool for fighting for your M and family. Your H is a fool for throwing that away and one day he'll realize that. In the meanwhile, take care of you and your children and keep bringing your mind back to that...over and over. Hold your head high knowing that you've stuck to your values.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
CW, I`m so sorry to hear the news. All the hurt comes back to the surface. After I filed, all I could feel was sadness for remembering all the happy years, and sadness because my H had changed into someone I couldn`t trust and depend on anymore.
Let yourself feel whatever you feel. It`s OK. It will be OK. You will be OK, and so will I. You think more clearly than H.
So, just journaling I guess! After my last post, I went to bed and basically went a little crazy...I had the house to myself so I screamed, I yelled and threw myself around on the bed and think if anyone would have heard or seen that I would be in a straight jacket right now but by george...I felt so much better when I woke up in the morning! I guess I needed to let it all out...I have been romaniticing our marraige and in reality, it was a FAR cry from what I have been dreaming!
I can't say that I am fully detached but I think I am fnally starting to "feel" that way...it is about time! I don't care (at least for right this minute) what happens to my H....he is on his own!
Went to ss and dil's for dinner the other night and she and I walked by a house that might be up for rent in the next few months and we talked about how cute it is and it is only 2 blocks from them and close to both schools and I kinda got excited at the idea of moving and starting over!
Went with a friend and saw the movie "the Last Song". At first, I thought it might be a mistake because of the beginning story line but it was a wonderful movie and although it is just a story, if we remember that feeling of when you first fell in love with your H and how the mind constantly thought of them and it was all butterflies and happy thoughts? Well, now, constantly thinking of my H makes me sad and angry and I don't want that feeling anymore! I hope to someday get those butterflies back, if not with H, then so be it!!!
So Mila, for now, I am choosing #2!
CX-you are right...WE will be ok!
FM-need to catch up with you! I had been "hiding out" in the house hoping to not run into neighbors etc. but no more! Back to walking again and going to go out and do some yard work today!
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CW, I can relate to it starting to sink in that our M was not that great. I think those times of intense anguish when you let it all out are healing. And it sounds like you've reached a new level of detachment...it's so good to read. I hope you can use this time to move forward in whatever ways you can. It's very hard to interact with people I find, but try to do it in babysteps. hugs to you...
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
