Listen, the thing that keeps getting you into trouble, is something you have to let go of completely.
Expectations.
You cannot, repeat, CANNOT have ANY at this time. Heck, they aren't good even when you have a perfectly GOOD marriage!
This quote is from Gary Smalley's book "For Better or For Best".
"Expectations can be one of the most destructive forces in your marriage. By diminishing your expectations, you can free your husband of a burden you force him to bear, and you can free yourself from unnecessary disppointment. Diminishing your expectations does not mean getting rid of your needs and wants. That is humanly impossible. It means eliminating your time limits and preconceived ideas about when and how those expectations will be fullfilled."
Your H WILL come around. But you are not going to see this for a while. If you let go of all your expectations, he *may* fullfill some concerning his son faster.
But you are doing the holding back of him coming forward!!!
Treat him as the unwell person he is! Find HEALTHY people to help you!! Drop the expectations that he is well--that he is functioning fine--he ISN'T!!
Detach so you can see this clearly!!! Go Dim again, and start over with NO preconcieved ideas of what he should do--that way, andything and everything you get is a "gift" and you can respond positively to it! You'll have that shocked, happy little "Thanks H!" that he so wants to hear!!
