4luv, monitoring your H's activity on single's forums is NOT NO CONTACT.
The idea of No Contact or "Protection Phase" is for YOU to protect YORUSELF from unhealhty drama of his chosen lifestyle. How on earth can you protect yourself from his unhealthy lifestyle reading his posts on singles forums regularly?
More to the point, why would you text him to CALL YOU?
IGNORE ANY TEXT he SENDS YOU.. PERIOD.. your parents told you more or less the same thing did they NOT?
You are expecting too much turnaround from him too quickly. YOu need to PROTECT YORUSELF.
My worry right now is that he could show up on your doorstep, say everything youw atned to hear, and you two would be in bed the same night, and he will go RIGHT BACK to the Sociopath the following day...
Your goal here is to FIND the STRENGTH to REFUSE CONTACT and IGNROE his ACTIVITIES... you don't seem to be able to control yourself concerning him... THIS is a SERIOUS PROBLEM of yours... Until YOU can CONTROL yourself... HE is giong to keep manipulating you.
And yes the "I love you" and the "I've got to get it together" is just manipulation.. his ACTIONS are the SAME.. its just WORDS
