Earlgrey you have a good point there with the passages.
He has been encouraging me to be a more productive artist, and that would definitely make me more attractive to him, but at the same time he holds me back from it by making me carry most of the weight in household and financial issues. After taking care of everything, I have little time, energy or money to pursue my interests.
And knowing my talent, when I actually do make a name for myself as an artist, he will not know how to handle it and he'll be threatened by being outshined by his wife.
I read excerpts of "Passages" online and this is one of the things it says happens around age 30. It explained our situation almost exactly. It's worrisome, though, because a lot of men who had never cheated started cheating on their wives at this stage.
I might go see if my library has that book so I can read the rest of it. It's pretty interesting.
