Mark,

I never thought about the fact that the WAS usually does follow a script. Or has a decision making process with you as the betrayed husband in exactly the position you are today.

They are counting on you to be reliable in the position of what is now a cuckholded husband.

Really, they are expecting you to be responsible, reliable, pay some bills, help out with kids and tasks as necessary while doing what they are doing. When they got into it, they made a decision that your needs are not important, and that their affair is very important.

They have rationalized this, and its what where up against.