I'm doing a little better today. I knew this last weekend would be hard for me with my D10 bday and my H being gone on a trip I was supposed to go with him. My D10 bday was a good thing, but not have my H there was painful. He celebrated her bday the weekend before with his family.
I did leave H a note attached to the D papers that we had went over last Thursday. It was short, and basically I wrote that I feel a D is not the answer and I believe that we can build a new relationship in time. And I felt we could use the next 6 months (his lease on his apt) away from each other to work on ourselves. I doubt I'll get any response, so I'm not expecting anything.
Something has been sticking in my head since our convo about the D papers. I had said that I don't think either of us should bring a new realtionship around the kids for at least a year from now. He said "Well maybe 6 months". My first thought was he had already thought about this. He then want on to say that he wouldn't bring anyone around unless he was serious with them. And that we should discuss it with each other before either of us introduces someone to the kids. He was so shocked about the credit card bills and obvsiouly haden't even thought about that, but he seemed to have thought about this )-:
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
