man this reminds me so much of my situation that I find myself getting angry at your wife and I don't even know her. Except my MIL is an enabler to my wife and I don't think she likes me. I feel for you man, I've never felt so much anxiety, anger and depression before. I'm starting to think this WAW thing is a form of mental illness. I've noticed in my situation that the more steps I take that get me closer to being the one to file or end it, the more she retreats, almost as if it's really just a threat that she makes to feel power over me. When I go talk to the divorce lawyer, separate our money etc...it empowers me and she is taken aback. Have you separated joint accounts yet? If you haven't I would split things down the middle, it will sent her a real jolt.
