You think I did that wrong? He was being tender, for the first time, instead of angry/defensive. I thought that by being "there for him" the way she would... loving, sweet, understanding in the moment, and then later today having a talk with him where I asked him for the password on his computer and talked about strategies for making sure it doesn't happen again (like an alcoholic has a friend to call when they want a drink) - that I could be firm and set those boundaries later?
As far as OW/OWH - OW has OWH convinced I'm trying to treat them as another soap opera and meddle in their affairs, so everything I say to them, I am trying to come off as nice for HIS sake... so he doesn't shut me out. I was trying to make sure HE knew that they had seen each other again. Not sure why, she DID say "we have an open and honest marriage..." Ha ha ha, more like "Open and open" Curious if she came clean before I broke the news or after.
