Hello elfie, it is a really big step to take yourself out and about when you have been dealing with this devastation.
I have had to take myself completely out of my comfort zone and tried very hard to 'carry on as normal' during the last 6 months - it's been incredibly hard at times but I have been overwhelmed at just how kind people have been towards me. I am sure you will find the same thing.
I imagine that your husband's OW has a reputation about town anyway and people will have the proper measure of her. They will see you carrying yourself with dignity and calmness and that will speak volumes about the person you are.
In the UK there is a very glamorous singer called Shirley Bassey (awesome lady who has a great love of sequins) and I call it "Basseying Up" when I put my make up on and smile and get on with the show.......fake it till you make it as some say.
lalxx
Choose Life Me: 45 Him: 44 S:11 D:8 Met in 1992 Married in 1995 Bomb drop September 30th 2009 Divorce final April 16th 2011 exH Marries OW June 17th 2011