My dad also remarried my stepmom and they seem to be doing OK.
I'm a fighter, though, I don't just give up.
H broke the no contact rule last night. I asked why he came home at 4:30, and he said, (in a nasty, defensive tone) "because it's the time *I* picked. No reason other than *I* wanted to." I asked "then you broke your promise to me." He started off really nasty with "Oh, did I?" I interrupted and said in a kind, loving tone "I am asking you an honest question, please be honest with me." He was taken for a second and then his tone changed and he said "Yes." I said nothing, went back to picking out my clothes. He continued and told me...
"When I got done at sensei's house, I was driving home and just called her. She came out, we went out and had some drinks. I parked at the reservoir and she drove. We went to have mai tais, and had far too many mai tais. We came back to the reservoir and talked (he paused, suspect sex? but didn't push.) and then I fell asleep in my car. It just happened to be 4:30 when I woke up. Could have been any time."
I said "will you promise no more contact again." He said "yes"
He looked remorseful, which is a huge step.
I said it hurts me to see you in pain. I know it's hard. I'm very happy you opened up. He looked at me like he wanted to say something (disbelief?) but didn't. I asked what he was going to do next time he got an urge, and he said "I won't call." I said "sometimes it's irresistible, you need a plan."
