I still call "Boundaries in Marriage" the most life-changing book I ever read. Even though I hate saying that and sounding like Oprah...I read it last June on a work trip, sitting outside by the lake. It helped me see where my lack of enforcing boundaries contributed to the problems in my M, and where his resistance of boundaries also contributed. No matter what I can take those lessons in to my next relationship. Both from the point of view of not making the same mistakes I made before, and from the point of recognizing in future men that boundary-resistant personality that I do not want to have back in my life...so even if you aren't married it is a great book!
Ok getting off my soapbox...
If your getting respect, and your communicating - there won't be much boundary enforcement to do at all.
Its when you lost respect and the other party does not care, or does not think about whats important to you that you are enforcing boundaries.
