I would start logging the incidents while she's on the wall. Log this incident: "4/12/2010 02:00 Outside on the phone talking with OM. Came inside and said she doesn't think she could stay married"
Why does this other [censored] have so much influence on her. And you know like we all do, this is not a fair fight we are in at all.
Look at Officer In Need ( OIN ), a very good man with good intentions, treats his wife well, same boat as the rest of us.