Wife in MLC, filed in early March

[Mila]

Hi CHH,

I'm looking for success stories to model and to help get me through.

It's always nice to read success stories, I'm not sure if to "model" on, since every situation is different, but certainly to give us hope and encouragement that our own relationship, no matter how hopeless it may seam, could change.

I'd love to learn more how you were able to make this happen

First of all I'm just at the very beginning of R, the hard work is still ahead of us, and secondly, there is no simple answer. It could have gone either way, even if I did everything right. And I'm sure I didn't do everything right, especially in the beginning. We all go through the same stages, the difference is how you deal with them and what you learn about yourself and how you apply what you have learned to your situation.

Bworl & C-Bart are making some really good points. It's really about you first....work on yourself, detach, love her from distance, give her space.