Hi Any Chance, just read your post on my thread and came by to offer my support. I'm so sorry you find yourself here, but the support and advice you'll gain is invaluable. I'm very concerned for you!

I'm afraid to make many comments, although as you'd mentioned on my thread about emotional neglect, some of our situation seems similar, someone actually walking out the door and having an EA/PA ramps it up to a different level to me somehow. I fear anything I could suggest to you, behaviours that I'm hoping for from my husband, might have the opposite effect of what you're wanting in your sitch.

But don't give up. That's so important. Pearlharbour is so right - you are the only person you can control so start there. Oh, and are you seeing a IC? It's so important that you build yourself a solid support system. Like MWD says, when one person begins to change the nature of all their relationships has to change along with it. Oh, and another book I could recommend - even my H read it - well parts of it! - and found it helpful. It's for emotional disconnect and it's called 'Hold Me Tight' by Dr Sue Johnson. It's an exceptional book; another gal here has read it and called it 'revolutionary' work. I agree.

My time is running short tonight so I must go. But take care. You're in all our thoughts!

I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.