Awoken - I know this is tough but you are sounding strong and that is what counts!
Originally Posted By: Gardener
W tried to explain it away by saying they were just friends, and we weren't really married anymore anyway.
Script. Fog. Guilt assuaging BS! Not married? Shameless.
I can't agree enough with this, it is total script! Cheating spouses have to find a way to justify their actions and this seems to be one of the first steps towards compartmentilization...we are not really togther. When I did my last confrontation back in Feb, my W said..."we are not together anymore". This one is a great opportunity for a truth dart regarding the fact that you ARE still very much M. Sorry, but this one gets to me as it is very highschoolish like they can just break up with you and move on in an instant to follow their muse.
I know that it sucks that your W found an apartment but actually, this may help you heal. I told my therapist on Friday that living with my W is preventing me from healing and moving forward and she agreed. You have fear over this, I know. Keep facing it like you have been so far and you will be fine. You are a good man and a good father and you will thrive no matter what!
