Wife in MLC, filed in early March

[C-Bart]

CH,
I've been away for a while trying to get through another tough time with my Sitch. Go back and re-read what your saying in your most recent post to Mila. Two things stick out to me. First is that her H made the decision to come back. What she did more than likely was to give him the space he needed to find his way.

The other thing that stuck out to me is you are asking for success stories to model. As someone who has tried to go down this path I can tell you first hand its a mistake. You can't model a behavior or try and be something your not. What will more than likely happen is you will try something then either expect a reaction or take the temperature to see if its working.

Also take a second look at Bill's post. From what I understand he is one of the biggest success stories on this forum. Not because he saved his M but because he saved himself. Ask yourself why you have decided to go dark. I personally have decided to go dark because of the pain involved with dealing with my STBXW. Its for me not for her. My protection not her punishment or to prove a point.

Here's the bottom line. If you are using a method or a tactic to get your W to change, you are not going to accomplish anything other than making yourself frustrated. More importantly you will be delaying your own growth.