Turning to you for hope with WAH

[pandora]

thanks for your concern lotus. we do believe our son is in a heaven and a parent couldn't ask for more than that. at the time i thought we both dealt with it well but H grieved much much later. it definitely contributed to issues now b/c H feels like we went our separate ways and "accentuated" the issues we had already. we've been doing the MC off and on but it's really not helpful since he's not "there" emotionally. our counselor i think is really at a loss at to what we should be doing.

someone else mentioned retrouville and i would love to try it out. i think H might go as well but next one is in july! also, we did a gottman workshop which was great but seemed to have no effect on H. he's literally at a point where he's so disconnected...that's the piece that's the hardest. we get along, care for each other, etc...but he's not willing to give this a shot.