H is not home yet. It's 11 PM, he left this morning at 8:30 am. He was supposed to spar at his sensei's house (probably 9-11 am or so) and then they were going to hang out. This sensei is in his 50s and loves to play, but gets tired at 9-10 pm and often leaves the party early. H should have been home around dinner. DSD text'd him and he did not respond. I'm getting worried, but I can't call him without him getting angry that I'm "checking up on him." I'm worried he may have been drinking and hurt himself. Mostly, my heart is telling me he broke the no contact rule. He blew off his one son's boy scout meeting and his oldest's pickup from work tonight. I was there to fill in, along with making dinner, etc.
FIL is convinced I should be letting him fall on his face, but how do you leave children hanging? I just can't do that. I'd think that knowing his kids don't trust him to be reliable would do something to his heart. He was making such strides towards being a really great dad over the past week, and now this. He was just convincing them that they were important to him. DSD is worried that he may drink and drive, spoke about it several times. I didn't bring it up, she thought of it herself. They've seen their dad drunk more times than I would like to admit, and it's all been within the last two months or so. I think he needs help, but he doesn't see it, wouldn't admit it and wouldn't go to get help. I'll be searching more carefully for a FT tomorrow, and praying that Allen is right and he will be drawn in.
If OW knew the truth about H... you know she only sees the good side, and there's a lot of good... but the bad is just so bad and out there right now. Sigh.
