New here but have been a voyeur

[pearlharbr]

I think many M don't survive infidelity because the LBS take the opportunity to really examine what they want and if they can have that with their WAS. I'm all for saving M's if that's what you want, but if you realize that you can't be truly happy and fulfilled with your WAS then so be it.

Losing the fear is key. Once you can look at things without fear of change, fear of loss, fear of anything, then the picture becomes much clearer.

Yes, we all deserve better. Some people believe they can have better with their spouse, some people realize if they want better it will be with another person.