I'm taking off my ring April 9

[AmyBel]

Just got the news that my mom has stage 3 or 4 ovarian cancer.

(insert many swear words here)

So... I need a plan for communicating with W.
1. She needs to know, this has been her mom too for 16 years.
2. I think a mutual friend needs to tell her. I have someone in mind with whom there is no baggage for either of us. Then my sister will add her to the Caring Bridge web site so she'll continue to be informed, like anyone else who cares about my mom.
3. I need to know what I'm asking W to do and NOT do in response. I predict she will want to ride to the rescue. To take care of me. She did this with the glaucoma attack two weeks ago. I, of course, would like her to suddenly see the light, fall out of love with the OW, and restore all of our married bliss. I also know that this is pure fantasy and wouldn't be TRUE even if she said it was.

I'd also like Mom to be cured tomorrow and there to be no more war. No?

Gotta say, I just had a complete priority re-adjustment!