I will keep an eye on stbx's interactions with the kids. He is already dismissive when dealing with S19, which is why when he has issues or problems, he comes to me to talk about them, not his Dad. They are the same issues I have when dealing with stbx- not being heard, feeling dismissed, belittled and condescended to. I wasn't aware of that with D17, but maybe she feels it to. I will watch carefully.
