Thanks Walking. your advice is good and totally in line with what the DB coach said as well. in my case, do less, have more fun.

i'm trying my best to not think about possible OW b/c it's really not helpful at all. it makes me crazy in the head and doesn't help the overall mission. the crazier i am, the harder it is to be upbeat, positive, playful.

he was better today...opened up about stuff. how i hurt him early on, how he had tried. it's not a new story, per se, but i do appreciate it when he says it b/c i feel like that's the only way to let go. i listened and validated and did not talk about how i changed (per advice of DB coach). i also told him afterwards how i appreciate when he tells me these things b/c it helps me understand. then when he left for a work, he gave me a warm hug.

i wish there was a way to just say...we'll be ok! and he would believe it. he is a good hearted man and something has happened in the last year where he's changed. not sure if it's an MLC or OW or just truly that much of an emotional disconnect. whatever it is though, i sure wish it would end. sigh.

does anyone have the magic potion to get these WAS' to see clearly again? i would be willing to pay a hefty sum for it. wink


Me 30, H34, M7years
Bomb dropped 5/09, S8/09, Living together 2/10 (due to external forces)