ninelives, I just read your thread. I really hope and pray your R heals. For you, your W and the kids.
Like you I asked my wife about OM and she denied which clearly can't be believed. Other than checking her cell records (which I'll do after I take a walk for my sanity) I don't know how I find out for sure. We live in a town of about 35K so I suppose it"s possible.
In addition, I still am in the home and we sleep in the same bed. When I asked about sleeping arrangements she said "might as well sleep in our bed because nothing ever happens anyway". Ouch! After we went for a walk last night we were sitting on the couch watching a movie. The kids were downstairs so I asked if she was interested in sex. The answer was a fast "no". I realize now this was the wrong thing to do. I guess I have to wait until it"s her idea?
I've ordered the books DB & DR. They can't get here soon enough! OK, off for a walk then on to the depressing task of checking cell records. This is just about more than I can take!
