Hope, you expect him to admit he is wrong, offer support, be your partner regarding your child as he should be, "make the pain go away", you try to reason with him, make him understand your needs. The more you push the more he will continue on this path, sadly even in regards to S. Even this last discussion, although completely understanble, think about it..., what were the chances he had a different reaction? He went of defense mode immediately.When you talk to him, be firm, strict, no emotions and be clear about your goal, is it to get some validation from him, or to solve a "practical problem"?.
Calm down, you are spinning, as flo said, stop doing what isnt working...
