I'm the one who has been chasing him around this whole time, I'm the one who has done all the work to try to keep us together, I'm the one who has been generous in showing affection, care, support and loyalty.
Now I'm the one who feels like dropping the bomb, ILYB..., because he did not appreciate my hard work and patience, and instead let our relationship waste away like all the other forgotten, neglected objects he has.
Oh Starvingartist ... be careful.
This is exactly how one becomes a Walkaway wife. I was you 7 or 8 years ago and I left my marriage because I didn’t have the skills you have the opportunity to learn here.
First of all girlfriend you need to look sincerely and critically at how your behaviours and reactions are contributing to this situation. The first para above is a good clue. You are doing all the “pursuit”. Stop it. stop it now.
Worse than pursuit – you are possibly playing mummy … and that’s just not sexy.
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I have discussed with him ad nauseum that he needs to take care of things, both in his life and in our relationship. We have had 100s of these discussions, and he says, "yeah, I should take care of that" and NOTHING ever changes.
Read some stuff on the differences between men and women. Read The Chase by Samantha Brett (good light, but enlightening read), read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, obviously read The Sex Starved Marriage by Michelle.
Last edited by Walking; 04/11/1009:38 PM.
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
