How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

I don't think you deleting stuff is helping your case at all... she needs to see you are being transparent about everything except your marital therapy exchanges (including this forum).

I have not deleted anything. I just changed the password.

My W just left for the benefit. Before she left I told her "To be careful and enjoy herself." something the old me would not have said...then I asked "Do you have enough money?" she said she had money. I then went into my pocket and pulled out some money and tried to hand it to her. She said "I told you I have money I don't need it" I said "It is not for you, it is for the cause and I want to show support. I am sure there will be raffles or something there, just out it toward that" She was upset and reluctantly took the money. Then our dog ran out the door and we had to chase her down. My W blamed me for that. We caught the dog. I told my W "We got her, it's OK, stay calm and go have fun" Then my W left....

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