Thank's so much for the responses! Couple things I forgot to mention. We've been married almost 13 years. The bigger issue is our home. We actually sold our previous home 2 1/2yrs ago and relocated to our hometown moving into a home owned by my wife and her siblings. I'm not on title and have no claim to the property so it's really not my place to demand to stay. At this point she's friendly to me. I've been working 7 days a week trying to get ahead of the financial curve and bring some relief to our lives. Yesterday I was so distrought (sp?) I couldn't leave the house without talking to her first. I was a total basket case (crying, trying to breathe....I'm not proud)!!! She hugged me and said maybe we should try counseling. It's too late for me to agree with her regarding a split. She knows I'll do anything to heal that wounds that brought us to this stage. It's really a problem with me that I need to work on. I need to harness my temper (I'm not at all abusive, just quick to raise my voice) and be more loving and patient with my family. While she'll hug me she will not be inimate. I just ordered the books and don't yet know what the "180" is but I need to make changes. I'd love to know your thoughts now that you have a bit more info. and again, THANK YOU! I've never been this upset in my 45yr life and absolutly can't stand to see an end to my family!!!
