Glad to hear you're still out there although I'm sorry you are still going thru struggles but I can relate.
It's been a year and a half for me and I struggle with loneliness daily.
Get through the paperwork. Listen to those here who have gone thru the process. Their counsel is invaluable, especially when you are emotionally distraught.
Agreed. Poet, hang in there. This is just the business portion, but I would add that you cannot figure out the motivation of your STBX. It is what it is and you'll have to deal with it at some point - in your own mind. For now, stay focused on what you can do - the business aspect and get it done. As the others have said, life is good on the other side. You may not yet see that, but it gets much much better when you let go of the fear and finish the paperwork. When you no longer have to open your email and find more things that hurt. Because once the paperwork is done, you no longer will have to let your STBX in where they can hurt you. Even now you can severely limit the amount of pain, but you have to focus on the paperwork and stop focusing on looking for a reason that doesn't exist. Nobody could tell you "why". Take one step at a time and take time to imagine yourself happy without STBX. Make a conscious effort to do at least twice a day - you'll be glad you did
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
Thanks to everyone. You've been an inspiration to me. FIB, SFO, Tulsa Time and AJM. This is just a short note to let you all know that I am emotionally stable and ready to deal with this thing tomorrow. If you've read my thread you know that we are set to go to mediation. I spent two hours with my attorney today and she has me feeling OK about this. We have a plan and hopefully we can stick to it. I don't want to reveal it now -- because you never know who might be reading this -- but maybe in the near future. One thing is for sure ... it's all about money. I am going into this tomorrow with the assurance that he is a hostile business partner, and I'm good with that. Thanks for helping me hang in there. (BTW, I trudged through the paperwork with heart and soul). Thank God that's done.
Good Luck on everything. Let us know how it goes. Good for you for getting it done. Not pleasant but there is no way around it. Once done - an incredible burden is lifted off your shoulders. Uncertainty is a terrible thing to live with. Move forward with confidence that you will be just fine. You will!
Just a short note to let you all know that absolutely nothing was resolved. H proposed absolutely no help at all and my atty called him a "jerk," (not to his face, of course). Oh well.
Will give more details soon. I'm too exhausted to go into it now.
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Thanks to you all for your support ... more than I ever got from my spouse, even when the marriage was "good."
I had a dream night before last, that I was picked for an extravagant musical, where hundreds of thousands attended. LOL. I was some sort of jester, in a clown suit. LOL. The night of the play, I was totally unprepared. I needed noise makers, and left them at home. I forgot my lines, and I was on the verge of being late.
Then, by some miracle, all these people popped out of the woodwork. I was asleep and someone called to wake me up. Then, as I was running down the pathway to the stage, one person from the crown handed me the noisemakers I needed. Another prepared me for my lines, and still others cheered me on. I got to the stage and managed to make it though my scene.
